Today’s post is from Rachel who blogs at Smart Mom Smart Ideas. She shares four wonderful ways to build a deeper bond with your children. We’re good about doing the first three, but I could definitely do more of idea #4. My kids would love that!
Mommy, can you read a book to me? Mommy, can you play a game with us? Mommy, will you help me with my homework? All questions you hear as a mom every day. Our children want to be close to us. They will watch us, they follow us, and they will imitate us. They want our attention and for us to be present when we are with them.
You have probably noticed your children deeply desire your attention (seems like all the time). They really want to have a relationship with us. It’s easy to fall into the trap of I’ll play later or I’ll read in a few minutes, but then you get busy and forget.
Maybe you are like me, you work full-time, you come and fix or finish dinner, then you clean-up and start homework. Or maybe you are a stay at home mom that homeschools her children and has a business on the side. Before you know it the day is over and it’s time to get everyone a bath and off to bed. The evening hours just seem to fly for me. Yet, during these times my children still ask me to be present and give them my full attention.
I would like to share 4 simple ways you can build a deeper relationship with your children by being present for them every day.
Read Aloud Together
If you have 2 or 3 children, their ages probably span 2-5 years or more. It can be fun to sit down and read a story together. When my children and I read a book together aloud we all get involved and interested in the story.
We get to know the characters and we have a special shared experience together. I have noticed my children will frequently reference the stories we have read together. They either talk about how a part of the story relates to their current life or just remember sharing the story together.
Don’t forget if you read a book that has been made into a movie, you can watch the movie together too. Everyone will point out what was different from the book and their favorite part.
Dedicate 15 Minutes of Special Time for Each Child Every Day
Your days are very busy. But, your children are important and they need you. They need for you to give them your undivided attention.
Try to devote 15 minutes in every day for each child and have a special conversation or do something special (like bake brownies or help you prepare dinner) with each child. They love these special minutes with mom and dad.
Nightly Dinner Conversations
We have dinner as a family every night. Everyone has to come to the table (even if they choose not to eat). They are not allowed to bring any toys, games or electronic devices to the table.
We all share important things that happened to us during the day. We celebrate if one of the children gets a great grade on a hard test or wins their basketball game at school. We tell each other important things that happened to us each day.
A Monthly Date with Mom or Dad
Your children will love a special “date” with mom or dad each month (or every other month). A date with mom or dad will make your child feel they are very important to you. It’s a time they can look forward to and know they will have your attention.
You can let your child decide what activity you will do on your “date.” Of course, you can give them choices that fit your budget. It’s your child’s “date” and they will likely choose to eat at their favorite restaurant or go to a movie.
Building a deeper relationship with our children takes time and hard work. With a little dedication, we can build long lasting relationships with our children. A few simple ways to build a deeper relationship with your children include: reading aloud together, 15 minutes of full attention every day, nightly dinner together, and a monthly date with mom or dad.
What’s your favorite way to spend time with your children that grows a deeper bond between you and your child?
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